Saturday, May 14, 2016

.:not a parcel:.

"Our child is not a parcel. If you love her, grind your teeth and your ego and stay here."

I am tired of all this act, you are lucky you had time with her (when you are juggling lessons on distant places, lesson preparation, translation work and on line assistance for sts with no computer or internet at home, your daughter ' s school responsibilities, her dance and doctor 's appointments, parents teachers meetings.)

When you work crazy hours and can barely see your child, and when you can, you don't get a chance to do it because your in laws will virtually disappear with her, returning when they like, telling your daughter they are helping, leaving her bags in the garden when you insist that if they are not taking her home you will come and Pick her up , so that you don't need to enter their house.

Leaving her washed and dressed, with her dinner  (and his ) ready so she can sleep early and be ok for school the day after, just to find out the food is getting thown away, and they stayed with the grandparents until late hours. So you find yourself battling an overtired 4 - year - old to get her to school early not to miss the bus that will be the only one in the next hour and a half. And you fail. and it is YOUR fault, because, how hard is it to get a child to school on time? !?

And you worry, because she needs atention, she needs time playing with her parents, she needs routine to learn that play and responsibility work well together, both of them have a place in life. And you share your worries, and hope it gets through to him. But then, she is at home sick, and so are you. The morning you had to go to the library and deal with your mail box, including checking if there were any extra documents needed for your paying, is busted. You stay home, care for her, prepare your lessons, call students, try to and more hours to the day so that all appointments fit... They don't. You will always be in a hurry, and late no matter what. But you need the groups, which can only overlap, your daughter needs your time, which you don't have.

Her father ' s time would do. Sure. But then you have your monthly work meeting on a saturday out of town, and think it is lucky your daughter will have alone time with her father. only to find out he has Gone fishing and left her with the grandparents. Right. not a parcel. And when you only have the saturday to try and go to the library, otherwise you will have to wait next Thursday, he proudly announces he is spending the day out with friends. Sick daughter at home, my work on waiting list. Leave her with the grandparents, the ones that feed her chocolate so that she eats sth, the ones that take her to play outside when it is cold and windy so that you can worry about her having earache at night.

"Our daughter is not a parcel."

Right you are. And I am tired.

Friday, May 06, 2016


Quando alguém está acostumado com alunos que viram amigos, amigos que viram família, primos que são como irmãos, qual a lógica de ficar afastado disso tudo?

O que resta que valha a pena comemorar?