Monday, March 28, 2016

.:the one about comfort zone:.

It is funny how shock can help move sb into action. Sometimes you observe a person you love, just doing his/her thing. They see the problem, smell it miles away. You warn them about it. They admit to it being sth fishy but prefer to live in denial. It is like they keep repeating to themselves time and time again: the problem does exist, but fighting it is hard, it tales work, it takes time, it takes owing responsibility to mistakes I've made. It is not even that bad all the time. Maybe it will solve itself.

As expected, you observe the problem growing, that person living in denial, losing the ability of solving the problem by themselves as it gets more complex each passing moment. You talk to them plainly : do you see what is happening? Do you know how to solve it? Just take the first step, it is the hardest. After that, you ' ll make a habit of it. It may take some time, but there is no easy way out of it. By the end everything will be worth time and effort. Do you see what needs to be done?

They tell you they see it. And tell you just things the way they are. And... do nothing. Theory after theory when the chance to move /do sth is passing them by. You watch them blabbering their way past the opportunity to act, to start making it work. So you get rabious, and disappointed, and ashamed.

Yes, ashamed. Because that is the exact moment you notice you could as well be looking at a mirror, and the same exact posture reflects you. No, things won't get easier without your part to make it work. No, people won't do anything but try to open your eyes, because it is not their fight. It was meant to you, so face it. That is when, sissy or not, you gotta grip the situation using all your might, so that you won't be that person in the limbo.

Moving is hard, sometimes painful,  but being stuck in the comfort zone will produce nothing. More certain than not, you will end up like frogs in the slowly boiling water : it is getting warm, maybe it is good, maybe it is not, but I will stay here a little longer, it feels kind of nice. But then it progresses to a little uneasiness, but still you think: it is not that bad, I can take it. Until the water is so hot you feel drowsy, you lack strenght, and drained of life you sit there boiling slowly while thinking you knew better than that.

Luckily, some frogs get a drop of cold water in the pan, so they can leap back to life vowing never to be that stupid again.

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